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Posted By Valerie Wise on 04/06/2020

COVID-19 and your relationship

COVID-19 and your relationship

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The new Corona Virus is the leading story across the globe.  There have been major changes in the U.S. and around the world to life as we have known it.  We are looking at a new normal indeed.  Schools have closed indefinitely; universities and colleges have closed campuses with the plan to provide online versions of the courses but there are many professors, instructors and administrators who have no knowledge of how to create, implement and teach online.  

The global economy is in a flux because major markets like China, have closed their trading practices because of the outbreak there and concern of letting new infections into its borders.  Italy is quarantined.  The U.S. cities have taken measures that include closing social meeting places like restaurants, bars, libraries and other venues because of how quickly the virus can spread.

Socially, people in the U.S. who typically do not have close contact with others anyway are now even more isolated.  Think of the elderly or those with physical limitations.  In some cases like this, the doctor visits are their only social outlets; now, thanks to the Corona crisis, this has been changed.   Children who would normally be in school during the day are at home and their parents who may or may not be employed have to do homeschooling and come up with other activities to give them something constructive to do with their time.

The most notable change is that now many couples who are not usually at home with each other are having to spend more time together.  Yes, they may be working but they are in closer proximity with each other than usual.  How does this help or hurt their relationship?  

If you have followed me on  YouTube, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fti9kRxK57g&t=79s, you know that I have been stressing positive communication particularly with your spouse or significant other with the goal of not so much changing the other but one's self.  To communicate positively requires a heart change.  It requires you to remember the love that brought you into the relationship in the first place.  Is it easy?  No!!  Is it possible?  Yes!  Here's how:

  1. Count your blessings.  Remind yourself of how this person in your life has blessed you in the past and now.
  2. Be the best partner that you can be.  You have to be the change that you want to see in someone else.
  3. Be mindful of small courtesies that you can do.
  4. Be mindful of small courtesies that you receive.
  5. Say "thank you" as often as you can for the things that you experience in #3 and #4.
  6. Pray together.  Praying for each other and with each other is the power that can make the positive efforts pay off.
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