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Posted on 10/02/2017

Keeping the Love Alive [4 Tips]

Keeping the Love Alive [4 Tips]

Let’s face it, everyone is busy today: work, school, and the inevitable “To Do” lists! We can be so bogged down with commitments and constantly being on the move, that life can pass us by if we don’t pay attention.

The same applies to our relationships; after so many years of being a couple, what don’t you know about the person you share a bed with? Well, you would be surprised. Relationships can get stale and you can easily become complacent if you don’t work to keep your love alive. There is always something new you can learn about your partner, something new you can experience together if you are willing.

When was the last time the two of you went on a date? 

The last time you got all dressed up and went to that new restaurant you have been wanting to try? 

Here’s a good one: what about the last time you did something romantic? 

Okay, if you’re a man, romance to you just may be the sound of the screams from your favorite team after they won the game the other night, but- it isn’t impossible to try. Spending quality time together is extremely important to your relationship. You are not only a wife, father, etc. You are also a couple, not roommates that share bills.

Like anything else on your agenda, if you don’t plan for it, it probably won’t happen. It may seem silly to have to put your partner on your schedule, but there are some of you that may have to.

Here are a few tips to start re-connecting with your spouse/partner:

  1. Plan a date: try to be creative; it doesn’t have to cost a lot. A picnic at the park or beach, listening to a new band, going for a hike, dancing, dinner and a movie, whatever you both like to do.
  2. Set aside time every day to relax and talk. Ask them about their day, but be sure to ask open-ended questions so you don’t get the standard, “fine” as an answer. Talk to them about their dreams, things that inspire them, new ideas they would be interested in trying.
  3. Pay attention to the little things they do or that you love about them and let them know! Most people are really good at pointing out what their mate does wrong or what needs improvement; don’t forget about appreciating, then sharing everything they do right too.
  4. Do little things that make your spouse happy, without being asked. Have a cup of coffee waiting for them when they get out of bed, post a sticky note on the bathroom mirror before they get ready for the day, or give them a long back rub after a long work week.

Remember, in the end, no one will say, “I should have spent more time at the office.” Appreciate those you love each and every day because time is not promised to anyone and the moments we have been given are precious.

Camie Vincent is a Licensed Professional Counselor in John’s Creek, Georgia. To learn more, visit her profile here at Marriage Friendly Therapists. You can also find Camie at and her blog DearLadyLove.

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