Couples in marital gridlock, or couples with little emotional connection, experience frustration, periods of intense anxiety and deep sadness. This leaves us with an emotional life of basic survival, isolation and confusion. This is what it is like to lose ourselves in a marriage. Where did the best of us go and our ability to respond to difficult situations in creative and effective ways.
Most people strongly desire a marital relationship that provides a consistent sense of security, safety and acceptance. A mindful marriage is one where partners share basic values of being available to each other… available to give attention to the other, to listen and be emotionally responsive. A mindful marriage values an awareness that each partner has their story and deserves compassion. A mindful marriage leans toward the expression of consideration and kindness. In my own forty plus year relationship I practice living out the values of a mindful marriage and in my work with couples, I help them to do the same.
This approach to marital therapy focuses on transforming marital gridlock and problems of emotional distance into opportunities to show up as better versions of ourselves. The experience of stepping out of long-standing emotional traps by seeing our partner and ourselves in a new light is truly exhilarating and brings with it a strong sense of optimism about the future.
I have specialized in marriage and relationship therapy for the last fifteen years of my thirty years in private practice.
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