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Syracuse Marriage Counselor Jill Weldum

Jill Weldum, LMFT

Alkira Marriage & Family Therapy, PC

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Do You Feel Alone In Your Relationship or Marriage?

Do you wish you could go back to a time in your relationship when you felt valued and loved?

Have miscommunication and shifting priorities led to increased stress and conflict with your partner?

Have changes in responsibilities like promotions or children led to disagreements and chronic fighting?

It can feel painful and isolating when you are in a disconnected relationship or marriage. The energy of new love can sustain a couple for a long time, but life and your relationship change over time.

When the honeymoon period of your relationship ends, the dynamic and communication can change. The shift can lead to miscommunication, leaving you to wonder if something is wrong with your marriage, your partner or yourself. Constant arguments can make you feel like your needs and opinions are not being heard or understood.

Conversely, regular conflict or miscommunication may lead you or your partner to shut down, refusing to talk about the issues weighing down your relationship. Over time you may begin to feel like an observer in your own family as you struggle to reestablish the emotional connection with your spouse.

Most Couples Face Bumps in the Road

Almost every couple is going to deal with challenges in their relationship – it’s unavoidable. No one goes through life without experiencing change, loss or times of unhappiness. These moments – like health problems, having children, the death of a parent, your children leaving home – can impact one individual’s emotions or behavior, triggering a change in the relationship. Stress, anxiety and depression can lead to lapses in communication or persistent arguing.

Many couples facing difficulty avoid discussing their concerns and desires with family, friends and even one another. Infidelity or a lack of sexual desire can create a rift in trust and communication, leaving you feeling like you are living with a friend or roommate instead of an intimate partner. Over time, one or both individuals may let other areas of their lives take over until they grow bigger than their commitment to keeping their marriage happy and healthy. In some cases, the distance created when one partner feels neglected can be enough to lead to divorce.

The good news, however, is that with the help of a compassionate, experienced couples therapist you can get back to feeling fulfilled and satisfied in your relationship.

Couples Therapy Can Help You Revive Your Relationship

All couples go through challenges. Whether the problem you are dealing with happened three weeks ago or 30 years ago, couples counseling can help you learn to change, grow and heal within your relationship.

In our sessions, we’ll address each individual’s needs, worries and wishes. When you work with a therapist who truly understands and balances your needs with that of your partner, it becomes easier to identify and work through the root causes behind your relationship struggles. I use a strength-based focus to identify those areas of your relationship that have helped you recover in the past. This allows me to develop strategies that will help you get where you want to be now and in the future.

You may feel like you and your partner have grown apart, like he or she is not the person you married. The truth is, neither you nor your spouse are the same person. As you each face challenges in your personal and career lives your thoughts and behaviors evolve. Couples therapy can help you develop important insights into yourself and your partner that are impacting your relationship dynamic.

You have to believe that you can grow and change in your relationship if you are actually going to do so. When both members of a couple bring some level of commitment to finding a solution, the results can be staggering. When you learn to listen to your partner – to talk about your needs and desires instead of your day at the office – you can develop a deeper, more flexible love and connection.

Even if you feel disconnected from your partner right now, with the help of a supportive and experienced therapist, it is possible to feel heard, understood and cared about again. You and your partner can develop new perspectives about your relationship and learn new tools that can help you identify, address and heal from the problems in your relationship.

I encourage you to visit my website, www.alkiratherapy.com/, to learn more about me. You are welcome to e-mail me directly using this form, or call my office at (315) 492-1390. I look forward to hearing from you and I’m here to help.

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