Acceptance and Change

In couple relationships, it often happens that we fall in love with our partner as they are (or as we imagine them to be) but, in the course of a relationship, we want them to change. Often our attitude is something akin to “What the devil is this? Why won’t you change?” The desire that our partner change and their resistance to change are often a source of frustration in relationships. However, the paradox is that nobody can change unless they first feel accepted as they are.