In marriage counseling, I keep in mind two things: (1) all couples share certain predictable patterns, and (2) one size does not fit all. For over 25 years, I’ve passionately studied how to collaborate with couples in creating systems that work for their relationships.
I have worked with couples facing life with mental illness, or addiction, or just too much daily stress. I’ve helped heal relationships damaged by infidelity. It’s my job to work myself out of my job, by helping you establish and reach your goals.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Board Certified Diplomate, specializing in individual, couples and group treatment. I maintain a private practice in New York, NY.
I am an interactive, reflective therapist. I provide support, insight and practical feedback to help clients effectively address personal life challenges. I integrate complementary methods and techniques to offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each person.
Relationship counseling sounds frightening, at first. Many people fear that it’s the beginning of the end. In fact, the focus and the goal are to learn ways to do better with one another. Even if the relationship has run its course, there are better (and worse) choices to make in how it ends. One important thing to keep in mind is that in couples therapy there is no room for pathology. We don’t spend time trying to figure out who is “wrong.” We’re here to deal with what is between you, not what’s “deeply flawed” within either of you.
Couples counseling deals with problems in all stages of a relationship: dating, premarital, marriage, separation, and divorce.
Problems with dating can sometimes be an individual treatment: how do I find the right person? why can’t I keep a relationship going? how do I know if this IS the right person?
Premarital counseling is about getting to know the partner you are planning to “go into business” with: Do we agree on the important things? Have we explored our “deal-busters”? Can we at least tolerate each others’ families?
Marital counseling is often about untangling assumptions, exploring the changing dynamics caused by work life, or children… learning to have dialogue together, rather than talking “at” one another.
Separation: sometimes a relationship runs its course. Can we de-tangle our lives respectfully, and leave one another with a sense of completion?
Divorce: Can we end this union with an understanding that, while it may not have lasted so long as we’d hoped, while in it we learned about ourselves and one another, and gave it our best?
I encourage you to visit my website to learn more about me. You are welcome to email me using the contact form or call my office directly.
